My vision for all of us is that we practice a kinder way of relating to ourselves. One where…
- We reach out and connect to others in the moments we feel like hiding
- We see the adaptivity in all parts of ourselves, even the tough ones
- We seek to understand ourselves through curiosity and openness
- We isten to our limits and see our needs as worthwhile
- We learn from our mistakes and forgive ourselves
The problem is, we live in a culture that can be very shaming, in so many painful areas - from our productivity to our parenting, to our relationship with our bodies.
Shame is an intense, wholebody experience that we all need to find ways to cope with. When left unaddressed, shame causes us to hide away, lash out, withdraw from others, or berate ourselves. It affects our relationships with others as well as our relationship with ourselves.
Because of its pervasive and all-encompassing nature, shame needs to be treated differently than other uncomfortable emotions. That’s where shame resilience comes in.
Shame resilience starts with being able to identify shame and take a step back from it when it arises.
The purpose of this course is to provide you with 6 concrete tools you can use to help support that resilience.
As a beginning, here’s my gentle reminder:
You are not broken. You are not a mistake.
We experience shame because we’ve been shamed.
And, you can start to feel whole again.
Nicole Perry is a Registered Psychologist whose approach is collaborative and feminist at its heart. She specializes shame resilience, setting boundaries, and healing trauma. Nicole understands that many of us are coping with overwhelming feelings of guilt and shame that keep us from believing we deserve good things, and works to guide her clients toward a more compassionate way forward. Nicole approaches her healing work with warmth and curiosity, and offers a safe container for working with difficult experiences.
Nicole provides counselling to individuals and groups in addition to her online courses, focused mainly in the LGBTQ* community in Edmonton.